The Family Mediator's Blog


Who Keeps the Teaspoons?

Who Keeps the Teaspoons?

Paul Kemp - Monday, August 03, 2020

Lawyers at court often become frustrated when, having negotiated a deal for the family home, the pensions, and the savings, they hit in impasse over the contents of the family home.  It is so commonplace as to be a cliché. Read more

The End of the Blame Game?

The End of the Blame Game?

Paul Kemp - Thursday, July 02, 2020

When the Divorce Reform Act was passed in 1969, most saw it as a hard won advance but also as transitional measure which removed fault from divorce but contrived to leave it with blame.  More than 50 years on, it remains in force but, hopefully, not for much longer. Read more

"How Do You Expect Me to Mediate? My Ex is a Total Nightmare"

"How Do You Expect Me to Mediate? My Ex is a Total Nightmare"

Paul Kemp - Friday, June 19, 2020

The simple answer to such a question is: ‘I don’t expect you to’.    There are many situations where family mediation is not the best option.  This may be one – possibly.  Read more

Reform of divorce law welcome – but not enough

Reform of divorce law welcome – but not enough

Paul Kemp - Friday, January 10, 2020

So the Parliamentary Bill to reform the law of divorce – lost when Parliament was dissolved for the general election – has been reintroduced this week. That is welcome news indeed. But does it go far enough? Read more

How do I go about choosing a mediator?

How do I go about choosing a mediator?

Paul Kemp - Wednesday, January 23, 2019

An article originally written by family mediator Paul Kemp for the Family Law Panel website. Read more

Wise men make Christmas Arrangements early

Wise men make Christmas Arrangements early

Kirsty Drew - Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Families across the Western world are deep in negotiation about how they will spend the Christmas holiday. For any family, it gets complicated, especially when not everyone lives in the same town or region (or, indeed, country). Read more

Has the time for no-blame divorce finally arrived?

Has the time for no-blame divorce finally arrived?

Paul Kemp - Wednesday, September 12, 2018

The recent highly publicised divorce case between Worcestershire couple Mr and Mrs Owens appears to have provided the stimulus for the Government to review the law and explore whether reform is needed.  Such a review has just been announced. Read more

Where parents can turn for information

Where parents can turn for information

Paul Kemp - Monday, September 10, 2018

You never wanted to be a single parent; few mums or dads do.  But here you are, feeling lost and alone and with lots of questions. Read more

I'm a 'Bonus-Mum' not a 'Wicked Step-Mother'

I'm a 'Bonus-Mum' not a 'Wicked Step-Mother'

Paul Kemp - Monday, August 06, 2018

Step-parents (and especially stepmothers) get a bad press – and it’s pretty much unfair on the many women (and men) who are doing their very best to help their partner’s children adjust to a new stage in their lives. Read more

Creating a happy child (even after separation or divorce)

Creating a happy child (even after separation or divorce)

Paul Kemp - Monday, July 30, 2018

Mums and Dads who come to family mediation are usually asked what they most want for their children.  Their first answer is almost always the same:  ‘I want my children to be happy’. Read more

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