SUPPORT FOR PARENTS
Divorce and separation are a stressful and challenging time for all involved.
We’ve gathered a few resources that aim to help parents be there for themselves and for their children.
Here's an article about 'Supporting your child through separation and divorce'.
The Gingerbread website also has some useful information 'Supporting your child through your separation'.
This video below highlights not only the effect separation can have on children, but also the parents’ power to change this.
The video below is Lucy Reed, author of "The Family Court without a Lawyer". The Family Court without a Lawyer is the book you need if you are involved in disputes with your ex over money or children and do not have a lawyer to represent you in court.
You may want also want to take a look at her video channel.
Help is available:
Quite a few books have been written to help separated parents. This one is, in my view, the very best - and by a considerable margin. And my high opinion of the book is shared by the head of the England and Wales Family Courts (President of the Family Division, Sir Andrew MacFarlane) who wrote the foreword to the book.
Child Psychologist Christina McGhee has produced a volume that address both the issues that are likely to arise in nearly every two home family, plus the less common but more challenging situations that parents hope never to have to face. She does so in a way that is balanced (neither pro-mother nor pro-father - but definitely pro-children).
Parenting Apart should be regarded as an 'Operator's Manual' - a resource to dip into and to consult when you are not sure where to for guidance. It should be read in the right spirit, by which I mean that you should approach it with the question: 'What can I learn from this that will help me to be the best parent that I can be?' and certainly not with a view to be able to pin-point what the children's other parent might be doing wrong!
Being a parent is a challenge at the best of times. Being a parent after separation has an extra layer of difficulty. The purchase of this volume is a great first step in addressing those challenges and difficulties.